Ask Brady: Why do women always want more than a casual relationship?

askbrady — Thu, 30 Aug 2007 00:52:01 +0000

I know all you guys out there are looking for the next “casual fling”. The girl you can hang around, have a really great time with, take to bed, and not have to commit to. It seems like that works for a few weeks, then the girl “goes psycho” and gets possessive. This turns you off and you break ties with said hottie. All the while you blame it on the girl, not thinking that it’s your actions that make her become all possessive. But, that’s our problems isn’t it guys – we don’t think.

I’ll tell you, women are just as interested in sex as men. A huge number of girls are also looking for something more casual, which works in your favor. The problem is most of us men don’t know how to NOT ACT LIKE A BOYFRIEND. We’ll call more than a few times a week, thinking we need to keep the girl happy. Get a clue guys, if you act like her boyfriend she’ll come to think of you as her boyfriend. If you act like all you’re in it for is sex, she won’t have any more expectation. A few rules to have a casual relationship by:

Don’t spend more than one or two nights a week together.
If she calls and asks you to come over, make sure you don’t seem like you’re all alone waiting for her.
Show just enough affection to keep her happy. If you over do it, she’ll see you becoming her boyfriend.

Keep these simple points in mind in your interactions with your special lady friend, and you’ll be sure to keep her expectation in check.

That’s all for today, but I wanted to mention my favorite travel destination. If you’re looking for the Caribbean, forget St. Bart’s and head to Margarita Island. Off the cost of Venezuela, this island is really getting a lot of attention right now. I just got back from a long weekend with Sara in a rental home. If you run into Douglas Weller, he just might convince you to buy a house and stay.